The 5 Life Changing Steps to Breaking the Cycle of Limiting Beliefs

“You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that there are limits.” – Robert Anthony

Previously, I mentioned the term “Limiting Beliefs”.  Fears and worries are the key ingredients that make up our limiting beliefs. While the best way to get rid of those limiting beliefs is to turn to positive thinking and turn them into “Empowering Beliefs”. It’s important that we first think more about exactly what empowering beliefs are and how to successfully incorporate them into our thinking habits.

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Author Mikael Olsson, in his book Handbook of Success: How to Make Your Life What You Want It to Be, explains some important things about the concept of empowering beliefs. He shares that there are many empowering beliefs that can enhance your quality of life. You can find them by considering what you would have to believe in order to be, have, or do what you want in life.

We must take our Limiting Beliefs and transform them into Empowering Beliefs.
Here is an example:
Limiting Belief: I am a bad influence on my kids through my own weaknesses.

Becomes…

Empowering Belief: There is no failure, only feedback. What we learn from every experience and every response is only information that tells us whether we are being effective or not.

So what are the five steps of breaking the cycle of Limiting Beliefs?

  1. Discover Parent Limiting Beliefs
  2. Change Parent Limiting Beliefs to empowering Beliefs
  3. Discover Child Limiting Beliefs
  4. Change Child Limiting Beliefs to empowering Beliefs
  5. Child empowering Beliefs lead to Thinking Their Way to Lifelong Successes

Once you begin to change your own Limiting Beliefs into Empowering beliefs, you can then work on doing the same with your children. In the end, the outcome you want to achieve, is empowered children who know how to recognize their own limiting beliefs and who possesses the tools to change them to empowering beliefs so they can begin to think their way to lifelong successes!

Worries and Fears that Sabotage Parents and How to Overcome Them

As parents we all have worries and fears.

Statements of fear and worry often provide important clues to the underlying limiting beliefs that are lurking in our subconscious. Those fears and worries are often symptoms of a faulty belief system that we have as adults and need to challenge.

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When I conducted a survey asking parents what their biggest fear was in regards to parenting I received the following results.

64% said Personal Failures as a Parent.
15% said Future Success/Happiness of Child.
13% said Safety and Security of Child.
8% said Negative Outside Influences on Child.

Another question I asked was ‘What do you worry most about as a parent?’. Here were the top responses.

26% said Personal Failures as a Parent.
25% said Future Success/Happiness of Child
As you can see, the answers to both questions are almost identical. In order to overcome these fears and worries that I like to call “Limiting Beliefs”, We have to start by intentionally confronting our beliefs and making assessments about which ones are actually limiting us. by intentionally increasing our awareness of our limiting beliefs and how they impact our parenting, we can begin to break this cycle in the parenting of our children. Then and only then can we as parents begin to see the enormous power in being intentional about challenging our limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering beliefs.